Every day I start my day the same way. Alarm clock, shower, have breakfast, brush my teeth and comb my hair. I then climb in my car and turn on the ignition. The same radio station from yesterday - Tamworths 88.9fm. I think to myself, "Maybe one day I'll have a song on there." I put my car in reverse and glance up at the rear vision mirror. There hangs an air freshener with the quote...
"I Can. I Will. End of Story."
I purchased this air freshener in October 2015 from a service station somewhere between Cobar and Tamworth, NSW - the same day I moved my last load of belongings to start my brand new life. To you, it may only be an air freshener with a silly little quote. But to me, it's a reminder of why I'm here. It's my motivation every morning.
- My morning motivation -
I still look back on that move every day, it was the best decision I ever made. It was a hard move, away from my family and friends - away from my home. I needed to move, I needed to grow and experience new things. I needed the challenge! Growth is painful. Change is painful. But nothing is as painful as being stuck somewhere you don't belong. That's how I felt before I moved. I felt unappreciated. I didn't belong where I was. I craved something more.
Twenty months have passed since taking the first step towards my goal. What have I done since? Played over 150 gigs which have allowed me to tell my story and meet most of you lovely people that are reading this right now. I have penned a few amazing songs with some of Australia's top writers. Played at great festivals including Gympie Music Muster and Tamworth Country Music Festival - I even played on the MAIN STAGE at Tamworth. I supported Beccy Cole and Sara Storer, toured with The Viper Creek Band and Adam Eckersley Band - just to name a few. All of these things I am very proud of, I may never have received these great opportunities if I stayed where I was. I can't believe I was lucky enough to do all of those things.
Make it happen! You have to dream hard, wish big and chase after those goals - no one else is going to do it for you. If you want to direct your life, you have to take control of your actions. It isn't about what we do every now and then, but what we do consistently. Decisions!! Decisions are the answer to the What, When and How that you have been asking yourself. To shape your life and reach your ultimate destination, you have to first make a decision. I have been listening to a lot of Anthony Robbins - most especially an audiobook titled, Awaken The Giant Within. In this book, Anthony talks about how to unleash the giant within us all and live to our full potential. It really is a must read for all of you dream chasers out there. Anthony describes the Niagra effect, being stuck in the same old same old and just going with the flow -
"Life is like a river for many people, they just jump in the river of life without ever deciding where they want to end up. So they quickly get caught up in the current, current events, current challenges, current fears. And then they come to the forks in the rivers. They don't consciously decide which way to go or which direction is right for them, they just go with the flow of the river. They become a part of the mass of people who are directed by the environment instead of by their own values. As a result, they feel out of control. They remain in this unconscious state until one day the sound of the raging water awakens them and they discover that they are 5 feet from Niagara Falls in a boat with no oars. At this point, all they can say is, "Oh, shoot!" But by then it's too late. They are going to take a fall. It may be a financial setback or the break-up of a relationship or maybe even a health problem, in almost all of the cases the fall could have been prevented by making better decisions upstream." - Anthony Robbins, Awaken the Giant Within.
We have all been guilty of being stuck in the rapids but I promise you the moment you start paddling in the opposite direction, is when you will really feel alive.
I celebrated my birthday earlier in the month, July 2! Thankfully my roster fell right so I had that weekend off from work and my awesome agent allowed me to have the weekend away from gigs. I celebrated my birthday in the way a birthday should be celebrated, surrounded by the people closest to you. In fact, I celebrated over three days!! Adam, my friend from home travelled 600km to spend the weekend in sunny Tamworth. My brother Jesse also travelled the 600km to be there. Last but definitely not least, my beautiful partner Tyler-Jane was there for the whole weekend. We spent the Friday night catching up over a couple (about 15 or so) pints of Asahi. Saturday morning was a write-off but for lunch, we travelled out to Uralla to check out the brewery and have some lunch. Sunday was my birthday! The weekend ended with a dinner at a lovely local venue with my closest friends from home and also my new Tamworth family. Although away from "home," I now feel like I have a new home. I have finally found a place where I don't have to remake myself. I can be me. I am surrounded by the most beautiful group of people every single day. I feel a part of a musical community where no one competes but encourages - I never had that back home. I really can't ask for anything more.
I wanted to briefly talk to you about my friend Adam who visited last weekend. Adam and I worked together underground for four and a half years. I have always found Adam to be one of the most interesting people I have ever met. Our conversations about absolutely nothing can go on for hours and hours. Adam is a creative, I think this is why we get along so well...that and our love for coffee and Japanese beer. Adam has been creating some exceptional artwork. Usually specialising in portraits, he has most recently unveiled a scenic painting of Miyajima islands "Floating Tori" in Japan. This painting just blew me away!! I never expected something so beautiful to come from a miner! It really showed me how much talent this guy has. NATURAL TALENT! The best thing is seeing how proud he is of the artworks in which he creates. It really makes him happy and I love seeing the fire in his belly to pursue that dream. We discussed some entrepreneurial ideas that Adam has over the weekend and I'm sure we'll be seeing some exciting things from him to come. As soon as Adams website is LIVE, I will link you all to it :)
- Adam and I -
Now the mushy goss!! After months of bad luck and everything not working out, finally, it all changed. I picked myself up, I got back on my feet and started moving forwards. I think it was then after I was made strong, that the universe thought it was time for me to meet that special someone - Tyler.
I first saw Tyler in April 2016. I had a drug test appointment with the pathology as part of a recruiting medical for an employer I spent a couple of months working for. Tyler was the unlucky lady who handled my urine. I remember walking into an empty waiting room and walking to counter. No one was around so I rang the bell and out came the person who I am now crazily in love with. I was lost for words! I stuttered over my reasoning for being there and hardly said a word to her the whole time. My first impression of Tyler is something I will remember for the rest of my life. I have never had that first impression of anyone in my life. On that day, I would never have thought that this young woman would mean so much to me! There's not much I could have said even if I wanted to, I was seeing someone else at the time.
Twelve months past and I ran into Tyler my first day at this new job. We chatted briefly on social media and I asked her to dinner. Now, here we are. Timing is everything and I do believe there was some kind of intervention that brought us together. In previous relationships, I never felt good enough or I felt as though I deserved more. I've always believed in a kind of love that is easy. A kind of love that doesn't demand me to prove my worth and sit in anxiety. I have finally found something I have craved for many years - a natural connection. A connection where my soul feels and can recognise a sense of home in another. Something that allows me to be me without question.
When I first met Tyler, it took every ounce of me not to kiss her. When I first heard her laugh, it took every ounce of me not to fall in love with her. But when she opened up and showed me her soul, it took every ounce of me. Tyler did not make it hard for me to fall in love with her. She inspires me every day, I am so proud of how far she has come and I just LOVE seeing her kick butt! She has overcome some massive hurdles and now she is climbing the ladder to success. Tyler has a passion for helping people and following her dreams, that is the most attractive thing about her. Her motivation! I just love this girl to bits!
- Date Night -
You can learn more about my lover by reading her blogs at her website.
I'm back on the road next week. I have updated my shows, so be sure to check them out here! I do hope you can come along. Will also be hitting the highway to sunny Queensland in a month and half time to record some music! I'm so excited and I can't wait for you guys to hear it.
I have ordered in my first lot of merch, stubby coolers only at this stage. Some people put their names down for one, I will be sending you an email as soon as they arrive. Anyone else who would like one they will be available from my STORE soon or you can always grab one at a gig.
That's it from me, take care and I will see you soon!!